I spent Thursday cleaning out my guest room. I came upon a box. It didn't look any different than all the other paper boxes I've been going through the past few weeks, but when I opened it I had to stop and take a deep breath. What I saw made me think..a lot.
What I saw were letters, cards, notes. So many things that I hadn't even opened that it scared me to even look at them. I quietly picked up each one, looked at the date and sorted them as my anal retentive self-does. There were B-day cards, letters from Mom, Christmas cards and other notes from a lot of my friends.
I can tell you that a couple years ago I was in a very dark place. I was very lonely even though I had tons of friends. I was pretty social even though at that time I didn't want to be with anyone. I have a great job, great family and big support system but I was very depressed. Depression doesn't mean you can't go out and be with people and you can't go to work and be a contributing member of society. I am all of those, but when I came home from work, or events it took all that I had to process my emotions, thoughts, and feelings. I can tell you I was a mess...
So..fast forward to today. How am I? How did you break out of your depression? Do you lapse back into your dark places? Well, I am the happiest I've been in a very long time. I've still got my stable job (been there 23 years). I have a girlfriend that I love and care about very much. She supports me in all that I do. I still have the same support system, but I've weeded out a lot of people but only associate with those who truly love, trust and care about me.
What I did is something that's very easy to say but very difficult to do, but I've done it. I JUST STOPPED. I stopped the self-pity of my life, what I thought I was supposed to have, what I was supposed to be and just started living my life on my own terms. It was not easy and I had to come to grips with a lot, personally and financially. I wake up every day and tell myself it is going to be a good day. If it isn't...there is tomorrow to try and make it a better day. Don't get me wrong. I am NOT a perfect person and there are moments where the depression wants to come out from the closet and wrap itself around me, but now when I see it coming I know to stop, think and reflect on the great things that I have in front of me and that edge of dread starts to go away. I looked at myself, as I reflected on my 50th birthday this week and said...dude, you have come a LONG way. You're still a work in progress, but you're going to be okay. We are ALL going to be okay...if you want to.
I say all of that stuff above to say this. If you're battling something (depression, weight, relationship problems) always know there is a better way than what you think. It's something you can do yourself (I am an example), but if don't feel you can PLEASE look and ask for help. You might feel embarrassed or ashamed to ask, but it always takes one step to start a marathon..and your life is a marathon, not a sprint. If there is no one you feel you can talk to...ask me. I am more than happy to help. We...meaning everyone on this planet, are one big family and I feel like lately, we've moved farther and farther away from this. There is more good than bad around you, so look for the good in everything and everyone and we will all be okay.
Peace, Love and Thick Blankets